yeah it’s not always good to label people and ‘put them into boxes’, but also sometimes people like discovering boxes and placing themselves inside because they’re cosy and comfortable and they fit just right. words like fat and black and disabled and gay and trans aren’t bad, and people are allowed to put themselves into boxes if it helps them establish their identity
old analogy that i still think about:
there is a big difference between putting someone in a box and someone putting themself in a box, as anyone with a cat can tell you.
